The greatest voice of all

The Bodyguard is still one of my very favorite movies and I always, ALWAYS, cry at the end. How is it possible not to? Whitney in the plane, watching Keving Costner all bodyguardyish and stern on the tarmac – not a single emotion on his face but you know, you KNOW, that he is hurting on the inside, and then the music starts. “I-if Iyiyiiiii should stay, I will always be in your waaaaayyyyyyy…” and she runs ….off the plane and into his arms. Ah! So romantic and sad and it makes you wondering? Will they make it? Because while she is stuck with the old, grey guy and he is watching over some priest, will they live happily ever after in her mansion? He is not her bodyguard anymore and the crazy sister is dead so no worries, right? They can hang out, drink orange juice (only), play with his swords and watch samurai movies together. Go to the dingy bar on Friday nights and play old hits on the jukebox. And Fletcher will grow up, learn to swim, and be a normal kid where you play year-long games of chess in a cabin by a lake. If only.

No one could hold a note like Whitney; she would belt out tones so strongly that you’d think the speakers would explode only to shush down to an almost whisper and still be in complete control. And the emotions she conveyed; always getting the message through only to end with that million-dollar smile that would bright up any arena, TV screen or concert hall. It seemed so easy and many have tried to copy her style; some with great success and some…not so good. Karaoke singers love her songs, even though they are so hard to pull off. Must be the liquid courage many enjoy before hitting the stage and grabbing the microphone.  After a few drinks we are all superstars, hey?

Whitney, you will be missed. They angels are lucky to have you in their choir. Ah, who am I kidding? She won’t be in the choir, no way, she will be the soloist singing her heart out; brightening up the heavens with her beautiful voice and person and if we listen carefully, we can still hear her in our hearts.

No sweating it

Some things you take for granted in life. Contact lens solution for example, a variety of such, dental floss, minted, glossy you name it, yeast and deodorant. I had completely forgotten the lack of these items in China. Sure, there is contact lens solution – one kind, obviously not the kind I use and there is dental floss, I think, I haven’t run out yet, but for some reason deodorant is hard to find. I don’t know if the Chinese don’t sweat or if they have some magic traditional ancient herb to use instead but I had completely blocked out that I used to bring it here, back in the day. Therefore, when we knew that we were meeting up with sweet Cory and Joe in Hong Kong in January I took the opportunity and ordered a few items.

As per usual, we partied like rock stars, kids in tow. Great food and delicious wine, beer, sake and Red bull (?) of huge quantities were consumed and we ended our celebration at Aqua where Simon treated us to the best view in Hong Kong and a dessert platter to die for.

Not only was it lovely seeing them again, and their friends, they came equipped like the Santa we never saw on Christmas Eve. Oh the joys of not having to economize with deodorant. Being able to sweep my underarms not only once is a delight, for me and for my surroundings. When visitors brought gifts from home during our years in the states it was a treat, now it becomes a necessity. Because what to do when the yeast sucks and you have a friend you haven’t seen for 15 years coming to town for business? You order 40 packages and invite him to dinner. That’s what you do. IKEA used to be every Swedish expat’s lifeline but sadly, they only sell their own brand these days. IKEA Daim and IKEA bilar? NO thank you very much. Bad decision IKEA, really bad decision.

Now my parents are coming to visit very soon and the list is beginning to take form; candy of course, the salty black liquorice one that only Swedes like and that we therefore do not need to share, contact lens solution – the good kind, pain killers, sea salt, Wettex – a super absorbent kitchen towel and even more yeast which I will use as hostess gifts when (if) we are invited to dinner parties and such. Better than flowers.

Amanda has been home from school since Friday nurturing her cold and she happened to be around when I Skyped my parents to give them the first draft of their shopping list. As always, Amanda gets a little shy and sad when Skyping with people that she misses but after some coaching and probing my mom gets to it and asks her if there is anything special she would like from Sweden (not that she has any emotional or epicurean preferences to Swedish foods, she has never lived there after all).

“Well” she says eventually “a dog, I want a dog.”

O shit, kill me now. When will she understand that as long as we have the crazy cat (who I hope will live forever) there won’t be a dog. But perhaps I should be thankful; when my sister was the same age all she wished for every birthday and Christmas was a live monkey or a live lion.

“Hmmm…” my mom replies after having turned away from the computer so that Amanda won’t see her laughing at her request, “That will be difficult. Will some KEX choklad (Swedish wafer chocolate) do instead?”

“Ok” She happily agrees “Can I go watch TV now?”

Phew, crisis diverted, for this time.

All fake

Last night, as we were eating a by my standards very meager birthday dinner, chicken soup with noodles on the side as per request by the sick birthday girl, suddenly Marcus 8 ½ years old announces:

“I don’t think Santa is real.”

“B b b but why?” I manage to say, very confused as to where this is coming from.

“Nah” he continues “I think it is just mommies and daddies who buy the presents and say they are from Santa.”

“Only the real Santa leaves the presents by the tree when you are sleeping!” Amanda chirps in with her raspy voice with near desperation as an undertone.

“But what about when we have seen Santa”, I continue. “At little Sophia’s and Izzy’s houses and at the train park (a “professional” for-rent Santa, very real-like except for the one party we attended when he carried a jeweled staff and reminded me of Liberace)? And what about when we celebrated Christmas in Sweden and suddenly Santa showed up with all those presents?”

“No” he persists “It’s all fake, they were just people dressing up.”

How am I going to save this, I’m thinking to myself. Their belief in Santa has explained so much at Christmas time; his superhuman ability to be at so many places in such a short amount of time, how he can see and hear everything, how we can use him as a threat AND a motivator for good behavior.

“I don’t know what you are talking about” I carry on “Amanda, you don’t believe what Marcus is saying is true, do you? Don’t you think there is a real Santa?”

“Aauuummm….yeeessss, but I also think there are fake ones, like when Grandpa dressed up when they visited us in America.”

She is clearly confused by now. Not only is she sick on her birthday, her daddy is away un-expectantly and she had to postpone her birthday party now, suddenly, her brother tells her there is no Santa!

“Marcus, why don’t you think there is a Santa?” I say trying to save the situation.

“Haha! I’m just kidding; of course there is the real one!”

Huh? What just happened? Has he figured it out? Did he chicken out at the last second and tried to save the situation or was he just being nice to his sister? I don’t know and I won’t find out until December but I do know that Christmas this year will have to rock. We have to find the most amazing Santa and he will have to come flying through the sky somehow and have a real beard AND a fat belly, the right laugh AND lots of presents. And there will have to be snow. I guess we have no choice; we will have to spend Christmas in Sweden this year where the REAL Santa is from.

Joy to the world and peace and quiet for all?

All you want on Christmas Eve is some peace and quiet, right? A chance to spend time with your family, eat well, meet Santa and curl up on the sofa with a hot drink and a good book. Ok, this almost never happens; there are always meals to prepare, guests to greet, kids to bribe and messes to clean up but still, Christmas has that certain je ne sais quoi to it. It’s the finish line after a month of racing and hopefully, there will be no last minute errands to run.

We woke up on Christmas Eve knowing it would be different. We had chosen to spend our first Christmas at home in our new house in China, Christening it at Christmas if you will. We would have no guests joining us, only the family having a nice time before flying off to Vietnam on Christmas Day. When we planned this, we had not counted in that our things would have arrived four days earlier. You can imagine the mess in our house; boxes everywhere, filthy floors and sofas, Christmas decorations still in boxes and a general disaster area look to it overall.

Still, it was Christmas and as we woke up in the morning and had the kids and the cat all in bed with us, we felt…Christmassy. I stretched and got ready to get up and for some reason, touched my armpit. Hm. Felt it again and yes, definitely, there was something there that hadn’t been there before. A lump. Yay. Knowing I could not go on holiday no knowing if I had breast cancer I scheduled an appointment for as soon as possible the same day.

Up until now, the only thing we had to do that day was leave the cat at the kennel, five minutes away by car, a doctors’ appointment was easy to fit in.

It got the cat in the car and headed for the vet. “Are you ready to go now?” the receptionist asked. I knew he was to be at another facility but not that I had to personally take him there, all the way in town, 45 minutes away if we were lucky. Ok, slight change of plans again. I left the cat with the vet and got in the car for my appointment. 15 minutes later I walked out relieved not to be sick and made a mental note to buy new, sharper razor blades…

Rushed the cat to the kennel downtown, stopped by the market to buy burner gel for the nights fondue fiesta (like pizza! We told the kids, minus the tomato sauce, right?) and finally made it home.

“When can we open the presents, mom?” Santa had already left a whole sack of presents by the fire place, he must have been there while we were still sleeping because he had eaten all the cookies and drank the milk. “At three o’clock, let’s do it at three, kids. Mommy and daddy needs to fill out the insurance claim forms first, why don’t you guys decorate the trees?” I had found two small plastic Christmas trees in one of the boxes and all the ornaments. “Go ahead, decorate!”

Ulf and I got to work trying to decipher the packing list and matching the items with the insurance form, posting pictures and explanations to what had been destroyed and where. At three we took a break for Christmas. The kids had decorated beautifully, we lighted all the candles we could find, drank warm drinks and ate cookies and cocooned ourselves from the mess around us. The presents were plentiful and we tried our best to get into the spirit. Too soon it was over and we went back to the claim forms while the kids touched away on their new tablets. Forms were eventually sent off and we enjoyed our cheese fondue (“not exactly like pizza, mom”) and toasted to not ever having another Christmas like this one.

With dinner over and dishes done we started packing for our holiday. Peace and quiet? I don’t think so.

Back to life, back to reality

It’s time to get back on track and join the world again. After a long holiday season with many troubles coupled with even more joyful moments we are finally back on track and on our way to a normal life with routines and schedules.

The container that had been M.I.A since the end of June finally reached us on December 20^th. After receiving the news I immediately informed the management office who told me the length and weight requirements of trucks coming into the compound, information I shared, of course, with the people responsible for delivering all our worldly goods. At 10am, the scheduled delivery time, I get the phone call I had suspected and expected to get: “The truck is too long; we need to move the things into a smaller truck”. Go figure.

A surprisingly short while later, the supervisor shows up with a Filofax in his hands; “Look” I tell Stacey who is there to help, “I had one of those in the 1990s, haha, remember – before iphones?“ It turns out it was mine and that it had …fallen…out of a box. Hmmm…and this was only the beginning. Other random items followed that had excaped broken boxes, at one time I went outside and found one of our couches on the driveway (the very dirty driveway I might add) one the ground, fabric side down.  Broken box after broken box were carried into our home. Our sofas looked like they had been wrapped in glad wrap – only, glasses and cups were broken, things were smushed and destroyed and many number tags (to identify everything on the packing list) were missing. It was a disaster and had I not had photo proof no-one would believe me. The supervisor was embarrassed and started taking photos as well and handed me the claim form for broken items without me asking for it.

Thank goodness for insurance, or so we thought…surely this would all be sorted out quickly. We had not counted in Christmas, New Years AND Chinese New Year which in 2012 fell only two short weeks after the western new year. Do I have to say we are still waiting?